Choices, chances and chronology of life.

I read somewhere about the fictional disorder Emotional Lactose Intolerance (ELI) where a person cannot digest the amount of cheese couple serve as a complimentary topping on every Instagram post they make and I think my case is getting severe. Scrolling through my feed, I watch the same girl post the same picture 108 times with captions longer than the picture and this has happened with her ex too although he managed to disappear from her feed completely now. I wonder what has happened to the concept of love, the old pure untouched kind. 

Oh, that''s not it. My brother, a 13 year old, has posts worse than mine. His 13 year old friends have girlfriends and their captions are twice as long as the 18 year olds I see. "Always and forever", "infinity and beyond" and a million love emoticons. Child, it's your age to study, not fall in lust. Before going to the difference between love and lust, let see the steps of the highway of life. I am not saying that this is how life should be or this is what society thinks life should be like, all I am saying is, practically this path makes sense. 

1) First and foremost: your childhood. Enjoy just waking up in your bed and falling asleep on the couch or pooping every where and vomiting on anyone. Creating a mess in the house and having to clean it or just sleeping all afternoon and skipping homeworks.

2) Most important: Education. You can't just skip this and go for love. Education is like a visa on the passport of your life. You can't go just anywhere without a Visa. Special places need special visa and for a good future, a good education is a must. A guy can leave you any minute, your knowledge can't ditch you. 

3) Career: in this era of confidence and fast pacing life, we are all catching some or the other bus to the island of success. With our immensely high dreams, we start out joyously but most of us get caught in-between by the demon of lust, not love. A guy/girl who stands between your dreams and you is not the love of your life. Have some dreams, work hard in silence and let your success make the noise. Make yourself worth it. Remove the blind fold of love and see what more is out there left unexplored for you.

4) Love life: Now is the time to find that perfect person who you want to spend the rest of your life with. You are mature, you know right from wrong and you also understand what you are worth of. However, in the process of reaching this level, if you ever find that perfect person, have him/her as your best friend. If they are genuine, they'll stay for however long it takes you to be theirs, time is just a number, not a limit. 

From here, the pattern differs for different people. Mine could just be career and career and career. Yours could be travel, travel and travel or marriage, family and grand kids. That's your choice but these basic elements have to be there in your life to be happy and independent. You body grows up but today, we have come to a point where our minds have shunned growth and immaturity continues to rise. 

Part of me will always curse the parents. At the age of holding pen and paper, teenagers hold cigarettes and weed, post pictures and nobody, not even their best friend slaps them on their face. I am not judging, I am saying it's not okay, look at your age and level of addiction. Every night I open Snapchat only to find half of them with beer bottles. Where are your parents? Your lips are turning purple, do they even notice. If they were my kids, I'd hold their ears and give them a tight wack. 

Note: Parents, don't be strict, be understanding. Tell us why we are wrong and how we are digging a grave for ourselves and then let us decide. 

Children have attitude bigger than their bodies. Peace, kindness and humbleness is no where to be seen. What have your parents taught you? People can go on about how not to pull in your parents but remember everything you do reflects what they taught you. We are humans and social creatures for a reason. We reflect what we learn in the smallest way possible and you are who you are because of them. When parents are credited and thanked for all the achievements in a child's life, shouldn't they share a blame on the wrong ones too? 

If only a parent had taught his/her child how to be kind, a child at school would not be bullied. If only a child was taught what love was, would she fall for love bombing? If a child knew what kindness was, she'd know the value of respecting others.  

Why am I writing this? Why do I care?

Because at the end of the day a child will grow up to run this world, be a global citizen and take the responsibilities of various duties and we sure as hell want our future to be in good hands not in some immature, love struck creature who has a heart of stones and a brain of a rat. The kind of tree grown depends on the kind of seeds you sow today and it's not just parents that add water to the growing souls but everyone around them. They learn from what you show and do. 

We are the generation of trend setters, we are the future and we are what the future looks like. Big facebook posts on women rights will not make a difference but an act of respecting a woman will inspire billions. The choice is yours, make it count.